Twenty-five years ago I was in a marriage steeped in addiction with a teenage daughter who was on the slippery slope of drugs, boys, and all that involves. I felt lost, scared, alone, confused, and desperate for change, even though I had no idea where to turn, who to trust, what to do, or how to begin. I spent years doing what most women do, saying less and doing more, doing more and saying less and despite my tireless and best efforts, nothing changed. Things just continued to get worse. And so did I.

It wasn’t until I paused and took an honest look in the mirror I realized the ONLY person I had the power to change was myself.

And that it was time. It was time for me to quit waiting for “them” to change! It was time to become the “hero of my own story” because no one else was coming to my rescue. I had proven that time and time again. That meant taking responsibility for my life, not theirs, no matter their choices and consequences.

I had been the stopgap long enough!

I began to take baby steps of change with the help of my recovery coach and a group of women who were working on changing themselves.

We are not meant to do this alone, no one ever can or ever has.

Recovery from any kind of addictive pattern of behavior must include a safe, non-judgemental community that offers guidance and support.

It took me years to get to the point of being ready to take that first step. Or knowing what I wanted in my own life because my life was no longer about me.

It was time to change that.

I would have made these changes sooner if someone had been there to support me in knowing it was the right thing to do and that is why I created this journey.

Preparing for change is the biggest step,
the start of your own transformation.

It is the biggest step because we fear change. It’s time to realize that change, when we are making the decision from our desires, from a place of compassion, we are creating our new path.