Path to Change Doula
The enemy is fear, we think it is hate, but it is fear. GandhiWhen you read that our true enemy is fear, although most of us think it is hate, what are your thoughts and feelings, and where and how does fear show up in your life? Where is fear controlling you,...
I call my power back because I can.Codependency says that I have agreed to work harder on your problems, your addiction, your well-being, and your life than you. The requirement to be in a codependent relationship of any kind is that I separate from myself, my heart,...
A message from SpiritFour years ago, I was at a retreat, deep in meditation. In that meditative state, I saw myself running with intense urgency into a group of women, some of whom I knew. As I looked deep into each woman's eyes, I gently yet firmly held her by the...
As the New Year is fast approaching, most of us are thinking about resolutions, goals, or the intentions we want to set to create the changes we want or need to make in order to live our one most wild and precious life, at least the one we imagine in our minds every...
“You must be willing to let go of the life you planned in order to have the life you want, the life that’s waiting for you.” Joseph Campbell We all have our “ways,” and while some of those “ways" or patterns of belief, behavior, thinking, or being serve you well,...
This what I most often hear from those who come to breathwork, “This was the most powerful thing I’ve ever experienced. My life will never be the same.” We all have “stuff,” and most of us don’t realize that we’ve been storing it (pushing it down) in our bodies until...
This fable reminds me of the hundreds of women I have worked with through the years, sitting in a pot of boiling water of fear, resistance, shame, codependency, grief, confusion, and lack of worth. While it may be a different pot, the one thing they all have in...
Self-Love – Stop wasting your life away. Take a risk on yourself. Something profound just might be waiting. Give yourself a chance!
Standing At A Crossroads
One day I got sick of it all.
I was tired of being stuck, so I decided to change.
I have been doing a lot of thinking lately about what it takes to change, and what I know is it only takes one thing, to make a decision and to begin right where you are.
I recently had a run-in with fear, who came knocking disguised as a wolf in sheep's clothing, so convincing, so alluring, so believable, until she wasn’t! Do you know that the only way fear can survive is by being fed with lies? At that moment, I was lying to myself...
Core values are the internal compass and foundation of everything you do and everything you are. Identifying them takes reflection and contemplation.
It’s about waking up, becoming aware, and moving forward. Your work. Your healing. Your responsibility. You get to create your life in any way you choose.
What it’s like to love someone who struggles with addiction and the price you have agreed to pay in order for things to remain the same or choose the risks and rewards it takes to change?
First and foremost I want to let you know that you are not alone! That after 30 years each and every woman I’ve ever worked with, including myself has been right there. What if I were to tell you that you can change, you don’t have to live like this anymore, and I could guarantee that.
Here is the TRUTH, we are either moving forward or we are moving backward, there is no middle ground You are never stagnating, even if it appears that way at times. We are either headed for a future that inspires us or toward a past that limits us.
In every moment, we have two options:
Choose Less or choose More.
As I listened to Liz Gilbert say the following words I was so moved by her raw truth and honesty. At the time the love of her life who had been sober for over 15 years and was dying of cancer chose to begin using again. As with all addicts, Liz’s wife’s addiction was like a raging wildfire that had been lying in wait for its fuel.
It’s my experience and belief that codependency has been very underestimated and overlooked as a powerful and destructive addiction.
To begin let’s take a look at what codependency is.
What would your heart say? Let's Get Raw & Real about Addiction, Codependency & RecoveryBegins August 16th, 2022Preparing For Your Journey Through CodependencyTogether we’re going to get real and talk about what it's like and what it means to love an addict by...
Are you Codependent? Let's Get Raw & Real about Addiction, Codependency & RecoveryBegins August 16th, 2022Preparing For Your Journey Through CodependencyTogether we’re going to get real and talk about what it's like and what it means to love an addict by...