Transformation

by | Jan 24, 2022

woman looking on


As a woman who grew up needing and learning to survive in my family, my ability to perceive danger became very keen. This meant I had to stay alert, on top of things, keep my guard up, antenna raised, and radar on. In the world of recovery, this is known as hyper-vigilance. My nervous system was on high alert ALL the time, ready to fight, flee or freeze.

As for me, I became a fleer. I fled from myself, my heart’s desire, speaking up, being seen, being a part of, allowing myself to be loved, and the list goes on.

Like most adult children of alcoholics and dysfunctional families, things like listening to my intuition, trusting and expressing myself, setting boundaries, and understanding that I had inherent value and worth, were nonexistent. The people I surrounded myself with on a daily basis were all the evidence I needed to support this way of life day in and day out. I was convinced!

Did I know this was happening? HELL NO!!!

I moved through life with ease, always afraid, always trying to earn my worth, always trying to find a place to belong, and always with a wall of resistance around my heart.

All of this was SOP (standard operating procedure) – my beliefs, the voice in my head, the patterns in my life.

It wasn’t until I began to learn to slow down and practice the PAUSE that I began to connect to that inner part of myself that held the keys to change, possibility, and to my most authentic self.

It was here that I began to learn a new way of living and being with myself and with others. That meant getting really honest with myself then taking the action necessary to create the change I needed and wanted.

Here are a few questions to ask yourself:

  1. When you look into the mirror who and what do you see? Who’s looking back at you? What does she want you to know?
  2. If you were to walk down another street (please read last week’s blog) what would the name of the new street be called?
  3. If you were completely honest with yourself, what is one thing that you need?
  4. As you practice the pause, what does your heart want you to know?


    Today, I’m inviting you to join me with other sisters in Preparing for The Journey. This will be your time to pause, to reflect, to gain some perspective, and to prepare for change.
    I’m not asking you to make any decisions, merely to pause long enough to look into your life and listen to your heart.

About Mikki Proffitt
My mission in life is to create a space where women like you can share your stories from a place of truth, vulnerability, and safety. Where you can be raw and real, without masks or pretense. You can come as you are, feel seen, heard, held, and witnessed without judgment, and be surrounded by love. As a woman whose own healing journey through childhood trauma, abuse, and addiction I have spent over three decades in a career of service to others as an addictions counselor, trauma-informed breathwork, grief movement, and EFT Practioner. My deepest desire is that my work helps women end their suffering as they remember who they are, reclaim their power, and reignite their purpose.

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